How new parents can maintain intimacy with each other

Our youngest child is nothing like the two before her. She has an indepenedent streak but at the same time will not leave our sides. Literally. Whether we are walking, sitting or lying down in bed, she insists on being in between mummy and daddy. This went on till she was about three years old….

Why “Communication” Won’t Save Your Marriage

When you ask just about any couple for advice about how to succeed in marriage, their first response is usually, “It’s all about communication.  You can’t expect your partner to read your mind!”  While this advice is fine–I mean, it’s definitely not going to hurt your marriage–research has shown in the past few decades that…

Emotional Bids and Trust

Dr John Gottman is world renown for his work on marriage. His research spanned 40 years and followed over 3.000 couples. Couples were invited to spend a weekend at his famous “Love Lab”, a kinda staycation. During the weekend the couples would do what they always do on a weekend: cook, eat, watch TV, do…

Marriage takes more than Love

“Marriage takes more than love” is the title of a book on marriage that was published years ago. (1978, to be exact.) Back then, I didn’t fully agree with what the author Jack Mayhall was trying to tell couples. But now, knowing better, I do wholeheartedly. “I love my wife” is a common refrain you…