The Four Horsemen: Stonewalling

The last, but certainly not least, of the Four Horsemen is stonewalling. Stonewalling is, well, what it sounds like. In a discussion or argument, the listener withdraws from the interaction, shutting down and closing themselves off from the speaker because they are feeling overwhelmed or physiologically flooded. Metaphorically speaking, they build a wall between them and their partner….

6 Predictors of Divorce

Written by Parcsen Loke Digital assistants like Alexa will soon be able to tell if your marriage is on the rocks by monitoring your conversations. But why wait? Dr. John Gottman is able to predict the marital outcome by looking out for six things. In The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, Dr. John Gottman lists…

The Four Horsemen: Criticism

The first of the Four Horsemen, and likely the most common, is criticism. Criticism stems from unhappiness, annoyance, and disappointment. In a marriage, one partner might keep mum about the other partner’s annoying behaviour to avoid conflict. But that really causes the bottled up anger or frustration turn into resentment which, over time, erupts as…

Cultural humility affects relationship quality in inter-ethnic couples

story by Claire Miller Interethnic couples – relationships between two people with different racial/ethnic backgrounds – often cope with prejudices from their families or communities and must navigate cultural differences within their relationships. CEHD postdoctoral scholar Stacey McElroy and faculty members Don Davis, Cirleen DeBlaere and Ken Rice recently published a study in the Journal of Counseling…

Overcoming Relationship Anxiety and Feeling Good About It

Hal Shorey Ph.D. Posted Mar 19, 2015 Based on the size of the US population, there are presently more than 47 million Americans who have anxious attachment styles. That means that if you don’t have this personality style then you are most likely in relationships with people who do. Understanding this personality style and how…