7 Signs You are Showing Contempt Toward Your Spouse

Respected marriage expert John Gottman says that when spouses show contempt it is one of the clearest indicators that a relationship is not going to survive. Contempt may seem like such a strong word that you dismiss the thought of it being a problem in your marriage, but take a moment to ask yourself whether you…

Do you love me?

The Merriam-Webster English Dictionary defines love as follows: Strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties; Attraction based on sexual desire; Affection based on admiration, benevolence, or common interest; Warm attachment, enthusiasm, or devotion; Unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another; And more. The definition I find most helpful…

20 Years Later

Imagine that you have bought a brand new house. You also have had it fully decorated and furnished. Then, as soon as it is ready, you leave for another country. Meanwhile, the brand new house stands unoccupied. What do you think you will see when you return twenty years later? According to the Second Law…

The Lifelong Impact of Divorce on Children

Imagine a family as an airplane in flight. You can argue and still get to your destination in tact. But divorce is the parents opening the emergency exit and jumping out and pulling the rip cord only for themselves. All the while yelling “You’ll be fine!”

How new parents can maintain intimacy with each other

Our youngest child is nothing like the two before her. She has an indepenedent streak but at the same time will not leave our sides. Literally. Whether we are walking, sitting or lying down in bed, she insists on being in between mummy and daddy. This went on till she was about three years old….