GoodTherapy.org Blog June 16, 2015 By Lori Hollander LCSW-C, BCD Planning the wedding felt overwhelming for Megan. With her family living far away and her fiancé uninterested in the details, she was essentially left alone to plan the most important day of her life.When her best friend Steph became engaged, Megan was ecstatic. They… Continue reading Does Premarital Counseling Belong on Your Wedding Checklist?
Interviewed by Kyle Benson The pursue-withdraw pattern is an extremely common cause of divorce. If left unresolved, it will continue into a second marriage and subsequent intimate relationships. As Dr. Gottman explains in Why Marriages Succeed or Fail, “This classical marital impasse is all too common—a wife seeking emotional connection from a withdrawn husband.” How… Continue reading Breaking the Pursue-Withdraw Pattern
By Dr. John Gottman Many marital therapists tell couples to expect less. If you lower your expectations, the argument goes, then you won’t be disappointed by your partner. This advice is wrong. Donald Baucom, psychology professor at the University of North Carolina, studied marital expectations for a decade. He found that people get what they… Continue reading The Truth About Expectations In Relationships
You have seen it a million times on the big screen; elaborate romantic gestures meant to woo a new mate, expensive gifts dangled as peace offerings after a big fight, or surprise vacations to get away and reconnect after years of distance. Do these grand gestures really work at building and maintaining a solid relationship? … Continue reading How to create an emotional bank account
The belief that a person is just not complete without a spouse got its most memorable expression in the movie Jerry Maguire, when Jerry tells Dorothy, “You complete me.” Whether that strikes you as romantic or ripe for mocking, it is a quote that has made its mark. It shows up on lists of most… Continue reading The Surprising Kind of Married Person Who Is Especially Likely to Be Lonely