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The third horsemen in the Four Horsemen is a common one: defensiveness, which is defined as self-protection in the form of righteous indignation or innocent victimhood in an attempt to ward off a perceived attack. Many people become defensive when they are being criticized or, at least, they feel that they are being criticized. We’ve all been… Continue reading The Four Horsemen: Defensiveness
Contempt is the worst of the four horsemen. It is the most destructive negative behavior in relationships. In Dr. Gottman’s four decades of research, he has found it to be the number one predictor of divorce. When we communicate with contempt, we are truly mean. Treating others with disrespect and mocking them with sarcasm and condescension… Continue reading The Four Horsemen: Contempt
The last, but certainly not least, of the Four Horsemen is stonewalling. Stonewalling is, well, what it sounds like. In a discussion or argument, the listener withdraws from the interaction, shutting down and closing themselves off from the speaker because they are feeling overwhelmed or physiologically flooded. Metaphorically speaking, they build a wall between them and their partner.… Continue reading The Four Horsemen: Stonewalling
Written by Parcsen Loke Digital assistants like Alexa will soon be able to tell if your marriage is on the rocks by monitoring your conversations. But why wait? Dr. John Gottman is able to predict the marital outcome by looking out for six things. In The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, Dr. John Gottman lists… Continue reading 6 Predictors of Divorce