Successful Marriage

The Four Horsemen: Contempt

Contempt is the worst of the four horsemen. It is the most destructive negative behavior in relationships. In Dr. Gottman’s four decades of research, he has found it to be the number one predictor of divorce.  When we communicate with contempt, we are truly mean. Treating others with disrespect and mocking them with sarcasm and condescension… Continue reading The Four Horsemen: Contempt

Successful Marriage

The Four Horsemen: Stonewalling

The last, but certainly not least, of the Four Horsemen is stonewalling. Stonewalling is, well, what it sounds like. In a discussion or argument, the listener withdraws from the interaction, shutting down and closing themselves off from the speaker because they are feeling overwhelmed or physiologically flooded. Metaphorically speaking, they build a wall between them and their partner.… Continue reading The Four Horsemen: Stonewalling