4 Reasons The Health Of Your Marriage Must Come Before Your Children.

Over the past 17 years, we’ve discovered that many things create a healthy and happy home. The biggest? Putting the health of our marriage above our children. It’s usually 8:30 when I give the first warning shot to my two teenaged daughters. At 9pm, I say, “Fifteen minutes till it’s time for you two to head…

Happy Wife, Happy Father

Written by Parcsen Loke For years, husbands have been stuck with the mantra “happy wife, happy life” because nothing rhymes with husband. The closest anyone has ever come was “happy husband, stuff gets done.” Some have suggested to replace the old, tired, gendered “happy wife, happy life” mantra with the much more postmodern “happy spouse,…

Baby, baby

Being called “Baby” has a positive effect on the female brain, causing instant emotional stress relief.

The Four Horsemen: Defensiveness

The third horsemen in the Four Horsemen is a common one: defensiveness, which is defined as self-protection in the form of righteous indignation or innocent victimhood in an attempt to ward off a perceived attack. Many people become defensive when they are being criticized or, at least, they feel that they are being criticized. We’ve all been…

The Four Horsemen: Contempt

Contempt is the worst of the four horsemen. It is the most destructive negative behavior in relationships. In Dr. Gottman’s four decades of research, he has found it to be the number one predictor of divorce.  When we communicate with contempt, we are truly mean. Treating others with disrespect and mocking them with sarcasm and condescension…